The Puppy Socialisation Myth That Could Be Setting You Back

Introduction – The advice that sounds right (but often isn’t)

If you’ve ever been told, “Don’t worry, other dogs will teach your puppy what’s acceptable”, you’re not alone. It’s a phrase that gets passed around in parks, puppy classes, and even by some trainers.

It sounds logical. After all, dogs learn from each other, right? The problem is, not all “lessons” are created equal, and letting your puppy learn manners from just any dog can backfire in ways that take months (or years) to undo.

Why this advice is risky

Not every dog your puppy meets is going to give measured, appropriate feedback. Some dogs:

• Correct too harshly - causing fear or even injury.

• Shut down - avoiding your puppy completely, which can be misread as “acceptance.”

• React from fear - making your puppy think other dogs are unpredictable.

When your puppy’s early experiences are full of stress, confusion, or fear, they’re more likely to grow into an anxious or reactive adult.

What socialisation really means

Socialisation isn’t about your puppy meeting as many dogs as possible. It’s about carefully planned, positive experiences that build their confidence in the world around them. That includes:

• Calm, friendly role-model dogs.

• Safe, supervised introductions.

• Time to watch and learn before diving in.

• A variety of environments, sounds, and surfaces, not just other dogs.

• Learning to ignore some dogs

How to set your puppy up for success

1. Choose calm role models
Find dogs who are gentle and friendly.

2. Control the environment
Opt for neutral, low-distraction spaces rather than busy dog parks.

3. Let your puppy watch first
Observation builds confidence and allows your puppy to process new experiences.

4. Step in early
If your puppy or the other dog looks uncomfortable, intervene before things escalate - this would be a great opportunity to practise recall!

The long-term payoff

A well-socialised puppy grows into a dog who’s confident, adaptable, and able to navigate the world calmly. That doesn’t happen by accident, it’s the result of intentional, positive experiences guided by you.

You are your puppy’s safety net. The more you advocate for them now, the more secure they’ll feel for the rest of their life.

Your next step

Start with Puppy Preschool Online, your step-by-step guide to building a calm, confident puppy from day one. Find out more here → https://lavendergardenanimalservices.co.uk/puppy-preschool-course